When I started getting larger, more visible tattoos, several people asked me, "What about your wedding?" -- before I'd even met my now-husband. I always looked at them as if they'd asked, "What about potato salad?" I was unclear on what the two topics had to do with each other.
In many cultures around the world, temporary henna tattoos are a long-standing bridal tradition. But even as permanent tattoos become increasingly common and accepted, there's still a pervasive idea in Western culture that to be a beautiful bride, a woman must be unmarked.
And as with any backward and oppressive idea about how women should behave, there are hordes of us who delight in flaunting the supposed contradiction between tattoos and a fairy-tale bridal glow. The hashtag #tattooedbride appears nearly 21,000 times on Instagram, and there are pages and pages of beautiful, inked-up brides on Pinterest.
When I was planning my wedding in 2015, trying to hide my tattoos never crossed my mind. In fact, I had the back of my dress lowered two inches so it would better frame my back piece. And I took it a step further, getting one tattoo touched up and another covered up with a new design in preparation for the big day -- a trip to the tattoo parlor on the same list as a teeth whitening and a haircut. My tattoos are important to me in my everyday life, so it only made sense that they'd be important on this big day in which everything seemed to have added significance.
The giant red rose on my back is a memorial tattoo for my cousin, Sabina Rose, who died when she was 20 and I was 21. If she'd been alive, there's no question she would have been my maid of honor, and she was on my mind a lot as the wedding approached. She wasn't there to make lists and scroll through Etsy with me, and she wouldn't be there when my best friends and I went to get our hair styled and our nails done together. But she would be there, inked into my skin, and making the red of that rose's petals as bright as possible felt like a small way to involve her in the flurry of wedding preparation.
Katie Wudel, a digital media editor based in Los Angeles, got her tattoo of a peacock feather touched up before her wedding for similar reasons. The tattoo has several meanings for Wudel, as they so often do, but a main one is the remembrance of her mother, whom she lost at a young age. "It was a way of bringing my mother into the festivities," she says.
Kalia Hotchkiss, a tattoo artist based in Chisholm, Minn., says she does work for brides "all the time," estimating about 50 a year in the lead-up to wedding season. "It's important for brides to feel complete and perfect for their wedding day," she says. "I have brides who come in for touch-ups just to brighten their color before the big day so everything looks crisp and fresh and as vivid as possible."
Dorothy Lyczek, a tattoo artist based in Brooklyn, says that coverups are the most common pre-wedding tattoos she does. "I've touched up tattoos for clients before their wedding date, but more commonly I've been asked to either cover or enhance an old tattoo with a design that is more decorative or floral," she says. "A lot of clients have used their wedding as the motivation to finally fix or cover a tattoo that they've been planning to deal with."
Jess Zimmerman, a writer and editor based in Brooklyn, did just that. She's getting married in May and recently covered up an abstract tattoo on her upper back with a rose.
"I didn't come up with the idea because of the wedding, but the wedding kind of lit a fire under me," she says. "I mean a) I'm thinking about various ways to bedeck myself for celebration and photos and this piece is gonna look so good, and b) the run-up to a wedding is a great time to hate your body and face, so I kept catching myself thinking things like 'I should get some kind of cosmetic procedure before the wedding.' This was my way of spending that money on a 'cosmetic procedure' on my own terms instead of the patriarchy's."
High Profile on 09/16/2018
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