Money manners: 90th birthday blowout

Posted: November 7, 2012 at 4:32 a.m.

DEAR JEANNE AND LEONARD: My brother “Sam” and I have always said we’d give our mother a blowout party for her 90th birthday. But now that the big day is approaching, Mom’s mind has failed to the point that she’ll have no idea that the party is for her or even that it’s her birthday. Sam, who can be a bit of a tightwad, says giving her a party she won’t appreciate is a waste of money. But I think we should go ahead with it, even if Mom won’t really understand what’s going on, because she’ll still have a good time. What’s the right thing to do? — Uncertain

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Family, Pages 43 on 11/07/2012