DEAR HELOISE: I came upon a fight between three girls, and I was shocked that other witnesses were just standing around filming the fight instead of calling for help.
What should I have done?
-- Becky D., age 15, in Pennsylvania
DEAR READER: Becky, you should have called for help, whether that be a teacher, a parent or 911 for a police officer.
The phenomenon of people watching an "escalated situation" (a fight, a car accident, a fire) is called "the bystander effect."
When people gather around these scenes, a group mentality can kick in, and people want the "I was there" sensation.
Always think "safety first." If someone needs help, get help. Shooting video is not a priority.
DEAR HELOISE: My wife said women routinely are given high car-repair estimates, saddled with unnecessary repairs and up-sold unknowingly.
My hint is: Always get a written estimate before any work is done, and make sure it is signed by you and the shop. If you have any questions, show the estimate to a knowledgeable friend, or get a second estimate at another shop.
-- Dave in Waco, Texas
DEAR READERS: If you're applying for a job, especially in the medical field, you may come upon the term "pro re nata," or "PRN." What does it mean? It's Latin, and it translates to "as needed" or "as necessary."
You may also see this term on a prescription bottle; take the medicine as needed. Confirm that with your doctor.
DEAR HELOISE: I highly recommend women wear a camisole under a sheer blouse. It provides a clean line in the back, and it hides bra straps and hook closures -- not attractive.
-- Carrie R.
in San Antonio
DEAR HELOISE: My co-worker and I had a disagreement, so my supervisor had us switch desks for the day.
This gave us a totally new perspective on our work environment. This may not be practical for some offices, but it worked great for us.
-- Colleen N. in Ohio
Send a money- or time-saving hint to Heloise, P.O. Box 795001, San Antonio, Texas 78279-5000; fax to (210) 435-6473; or email
Style on 07/16/2019