RIGHT TIME RIGHT PLACE: She found an accompanist in the band and in life

Posted: November 26, 2017 at 4:30 a.m.

Ruth and Ray Liebau were married on Nov. 26, 1960, at the Church by the Sea. Ray accompanied Ruth on the piano while she sang throughout college, and then he accompanied her to dinner and movies. “It was such a natural thing,” he says. “Neither one of us had to make up excuses because it was almost time for this or that and very soon we were spending lots of time together and having great, great fun getting through our college years together.”

Ruth and Ray Liebau were married on Nov. 26, 1960, at the Church by the Sea. Ray accompanied Ruth on the piano while she sang throughout college, and then he accompanied her to dinner and movies. “It was such a natural thing,” he says. “Neither one of us had to make up excuses because it was almost time for this or that and very soon we were spending lots of time together and having great, great fun getting through our college years together.”

Ray Liebau found the perfect key to Ruth McLester's voice, and with it the proverbial key to her heart.

The first time I saw my future spouse:

She says: “Wow. I said, ‘Cary Grant, eat your heart out.’”

He says: “She was standing by a piano. She was as pretty as any girl I had ever seen and so full of life and energy — and man, could she sing, too. She still can.”

On our wedding day:

She says: “I was delighted and couldn’t wait.”

He says: “Ruth’s mother and father let us borrow their beautiful 1960 Cadillac and the best man drove us from the church to the reception. All I had to do was remember to leave the keys to our car so that her mom and dad could get to the reception. Well, guess who forgot? The mother and father of the bride had to bum a ride to the reception. I’m still embarrassed about that.”

My advice for a long happy marriage is:

She says: “Find the right one to start with. He just was. There wasn’t anybody else. He was just it.”

He says: “Love each other, of course. But do more than your share without expecting help, because if you both do that, then it’s got to be cool.”

Ruth and Ray Liebau celebrated their 57th wedding anniversary this week. Ruth is thankful that he can instantly change piano keys to match her vocal k...

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