Posted: November 11, 2017 at 1:43 a.m.

DEAR JEANNE & LEONARD: I'm on the board of a nonprofit organization that helps the homeless. Two years ago, the then-board chairman was diagnosed with cancer, and he passed away last fall. He and I were good friends, and when he first became ill, I helped him find an attorney to update his will (he did not create a trust). During that process, he told me that he was leaving cash bequests to members of his family and that our nonprofit was to receive the proceeds from the sale of his home. He wanted us to use this money to start a day center for our homeless guests so they'd have a place to shower, receive mail and do laundry. Well, 10 months have passed since his death, and his executor, who's his son, has never probated the will nor notified us that we're beneficiaries. What should we do? We do not want to seem like money-grubbers. But this man worked hard to help the homeless, and he couldn't have been clearer about the bequest he was leaving our organization. Do you think we should "push," or just let it go?

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