Posted: December 3, 2017 at 2:15 a.m.

Q My husband and I have been married for 5 years -- together for 7. For years I've heard how mean his ex is. Their daughter recently graduated and wanted to spend her first Thanksgiving after college with both her parents, me included. I thought spending the holiday with the ex was a little much, so I suggested we all go out for dinner the following Friday. I was dreading the evening, but I was determined to be pleasant for my bonus daughter's sake. I told my husband that we should treat his ex politely, on a business level, and he agreed. Well, all through dinner I witnessed possibly the most intimate exchange of "remember whens" you could imagine. The clincher was when my husband stopped in the middle of ordering and asked his ex if he liked the suggested entree! I was horrified. He thinks I'm being unreasonable for being angry. What do you think? What's good ex-etiquette?

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