Posted: July 16, 2014 at 1:54 a.m.

DEAR JEANNE & LEONARD: I'm a salesman for a pharmaceutical company, and I had a good quarter, for which I received a nice bonus. So when my wife and I had dinner with a couple we often go out with, I picked up the check, saying I wanted to celebrate my good fortune. That was six months ago. Since then, our friends have expected us to pay for every meal we've shared, even though the four of us had always split the tab in the past. It's not like our friends are hurting for money. But apparently they've decided that I'm loaded (I'm not) and that I want to or ought to be treating them every time we go out. How can I get this to stop?

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