Dear Abby: I have been dating someone for about six months. We fell in love very quickly and spend almost every second together.
Our relationship has hit a rough patch ever since he found out I have dated African-American men. He can’t seem to get over it, but he keeps saying he wants to try to make it work. He says cruel things sometimes when he gets mad, and it seems to be on his mind constantly. I don’t know what to do or how to make this better. We fell in love, but it seems to be spoiled because of my past.
This isn’t a big deal to me. I have always dated people I thought were good people. He seems to view it as disgusting.I thought he was my soul mate because we connected so well on everything else, but I’m afraid he will never get past this issue and I may be wasting my time. What should I do? - Rocky Road In The South
Dear Rocky Road: Give him a hug and let him go. You are the sum total of your experiences and your upbringing, and the same is true of your boyfriend. He comes from a background of racial prejudice. When a person is raised that way, the mindset can be very diff cult to change.
As much as you might wantto, you can’t fix this man; only he can do that. From your description of him, I don’t think he’s capable of that kind of growth.
Dear Abby: I’m writing to you in the hope you will share something with your readers. When I travel, I stay in hotels, and it never ceases to amaze me how inconsiderate my fellow travelers can be. Late at night, the drunken party animals carry on, often until the sun rises. Then families with small children invade the halls, and the kids race up and down the halls screaming.
Behind every one of those closed hallway doors there may be a person who is trying to sleep. - Sleepless Near Seattle
Dear Sleepless: I have experienced the same diff culties you have while traveling. Here’s how I deal with it: I pick up the phone and notify the front desk or security if there are rowdy drunks keeping me awake after 10 p.m. - and the same goes for neighbors who have the volume on their television sets turned up. If the problem persists, I ask to be moved to a quieter room.
As for screaming children - I have been known to poke my sleepy head out the door and ask them to please quiet down. Maybe I have just been lucky, but they usually do.
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Sports, Pages 11 on 02/07/2014