DEAR ABBY Mom-To-Be Wants Husband To Be On Wagon Too

Dear Abby: I’m three months pregnant. Before I got pregnant, my husband and I enjoyed having wine with dinner or a margarita when we were out on the town. We didn’t drink to excess, but have enjoyed alcohol in moderation.

Obviously, I can’t drink anymore, but my husband carries on like nothing has changed. I’m becoming resentful every time we go out to eat.

I asked him once if he’d quit drinking until our baby arrives. He looked shocked and said, “Why? I’m not pregnant.” I guess I feel left out because he’s having fun. I want him to suffer with me, and this is really getting on my nerves. Any advice?- Resentful In Tennessee

Dear Resentful: Yes. If you feel you are missing out on “fun” if you can’t drink, you have a potential alcohol problem. Tell your husband that when he drinks in front of you, it makes you crave alcohol, and ask again that he respect your feelings and not do it. A considerate husband and father-to-be should respect that you are doing the heavy lifting (literally) and help all he can.

Dear Abby: I’m a 28-yearold man who was born disabled. I have not had a datein years. I’d like to date and have a girlfriend, but when women look at me, all they see is my wheelchair.

I’m a good person, well-mannered, respectful, caring and compassionate. Any advice you can offer would be appreciated. - Lonely In Illinois

Dear Lonely: I’m glad you wrote because it’s important that you not allow yourself to be isolated. Get out and participate in activities you enjoy that include like-minded people. While you may have been born disabled, I’m sure you have abilities and talents that would be welcomed if you choose to volunteer them.

If you haven’t already, search the various onlinedating sites for both disabled and nondisabled individuals or contact a disability advocacy organization for guidance or to help you get access. Seek advice within the disabled community (in person or online) from individuals who have more experience with dating than you do. They can also help you navigate any physical barriers that might prevent you from dating, if that’s an issue.

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