Mom Suffering Depression Needs To Save Her Sanity

Dear Abby: I was a single mom for most of my teenagers’ lives. We have never been financially stable, and lately things have hit an all-time low.

I am prone to bouts of depression. I remarried last year, and my husband unfortunately does not understand or tolerate the depressions. He feels I should just “get over” things. He also doesn’t believe in anti-depressants. It got so bad I attempted suicide last weekend.

My husband said my doing that was abusive to HIM. Had the pills I took not made me throw up, I would have happily waited to die. There are six people on my medical aid, and the available fundsare more than half used up. For me to see a psychiatrist will take a huge chunk out of it. I am caught between a rock and a hard place. If I do it, my family will miss out on medical care should the need arise later in the year. Is it selfish to try to hang onto what is left of my sanity? - On The Edge In Johannesburg, South Africa

Dear On The Edge: That your husband chooses not to recognize that depression is an illness - one that’s treatable - is a reflection of his ignorance. That he would tellyou your attempted suicide was abusive to HIM suggests that he is more concerned with himself than he is with you. You have teenage children who need their mother. Trying to hang onto what’s left of your sanity and get the medications you need isn’t selfish - it’s SOUND THINKING. If not for your sake, please seek help now for theirs.

Dear Abby: I’m a 12-yearold girl trying to live a simple life. I read your column every day. I have one small question. I really wanna know why girls don’t like each other that much. Many girls at my school are really mean. I wish I knew the answer to why girls are like that. Doyou know why? - Confused

Dear Confused: Girls your age are mean to other girls for a variety of reasons. Some of them may be acting out because they are having problems at home. They may do it because they are jealous or to make themselves feel more important (a power trip).

Girls like this have never been taught to respect the feelings of others. They behave this way because they haven’t matured enough to have developed empathy, an ability to be sensitive to the feelings of those they are hurting.

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