DEAR ABBY: Wife Has Choice Words On Man’s Love For Sexy Lips

Dear Abby: Please help save my marriage. My wife of five years discovered an Internet browser history of 13 Web pages I had clicked on the previous day. The pages were of women’s sexy lips. My wife is calling it “porn” and a “gateway to porn.” I feel guilty about it, but I told her it isn’t pornography. I think it’s a fetish. She says I’m using that word to get off the hook.

Will you please tell her that this probably is a fetish? Our sex life has not been the same since she discovered the images. What can we do about it in a way that will strengthen our marriage? - Not Guilty As Charged

Dear Not Guilty: It’s a shame you and your wife hadn’t discussed what turnsyou on before she checked your browser history. A fetish is any object that turns someone on, and it can range from large breasts, to stiletto heels, to leather or rubber items of clothing, to full red lips. It is not pornography.

A way to strengthen your marriage would be for you to buy her a tube of bright red lipstick. And a way for her to improve your sex life would be to put it on.

Dear Abby: I’m a 13-yearold girl with a sister and a brother. I was recently told by my dad that I have to teach my brother how to read, butthe problem is he has a learning disability and a behavior disorder. I don’t know how I’m supposed to teach him to read, and it scares me.

On top of that, my dad got mad at my sister and me and said that when we were younger we were just like my brother, only worse. Sometimes Dad says we’re worthless, stupid and asks why we’re even in this world.

I have a slight form of autism, so I’m sort of slow doing certain things other kids do at my age. I feel like I’ll never be as smart as anyone else, and I have no clue how I’m going to teach my brother to read. Help! - Lost, Alone And Worried In Urbana, Ill.

Dear Lost: It would be wonderful if you could teachyour learning disabled brother how to read, but you are not equipped to do that. Your brother should be in a special education class with a teacher who has the specialized training - and, possibly, a tutor.

Sometimes, when parents are extremely stressed or angry they can say things they don’t mean without thinking of the lasting eff ect their words can have on a child. You are neither worthless nor stupid. Frankly, your father appears to be in need of some help, and I hope you will share with a counselor at your school what you have told me.

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Life, Pages 7 on 12/26/2012

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